* Greetings

I started this blog during my son's first year in Kindergarten, when I was getting phonecalls from the principal every week or more. That was the fall of 2003. Back then, I was resisting anyone's attempts to label my son with so-called behavior disorders, and especially their attempts to push their drugs on him.

My, how things change.

We've come full circle now and it's been an agonizing journey, but I feel good about where we are now. Hercules has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and is taking Concerta. Although I was adamantly against all this in the beginning, I've had to eat a lot of crow since then. But if I could go back and start over, I wouldn't do anything differently. The reason that I'm comfortable with my decision is that I arrived at this decision on my own terms, not because I caved in to pressure from doctors or school administrators. I still don't think medication should ever be a first solution, but a last resort. I'm glad that Hercules spent a year in counseling and martial arts. He has benefitted tremendously from both of those interventions, and he continues to do so now. We may phase him out of counseling this year, but we plan to keep him in Tae Kwon Do for as long as possible. I highly recommend martial arts for any child, girl or boy, of any behavior tendencies.

I still lean heavily towards homeopathy and alternative medicine, and I definitely hope to eventually wean Hercules off his meds and possibly use biofeedback to teach him how to control his impulses. But right now he needs to experience what "normal" looks like, and to have an opportunity to taste success. He's getting that opportunity now, for the first time in his life. I never thought I would know what it feels like to see my son receive praise in school. I get teary-eyed just thinking about it. I'm like that, though.

Now that I'm not overwhelmed by the daily stress of raising an out-of-control herculean warrior punk rock pirate elf boy, I'm trying to focus my efforts and thoughts in other areas of great importance to me. Raising a child in today's world is not for the faint of heart, and motherhood has been a rude awakening for me in several respects. Some of the topics I hope to find time to reflect on are:

The challenges of raising a boy child as a feminist mother.
Being the only white family in a low-income neighborhood.
Seeking a community of like-minded folks while struggling to overcome the isolation of parenting.
Step-parenting
Religion and politics - Because I'm a liberal with a fundamentalist Christian upbringing.

I hope you'll stick around and join me on my journey of personal growth and reflection.

Walk in beauty,
Renee

Updated March 2006

1 Comments:

Blogger GoMommy said...

Renee, my son too was diagnosed recently with ADHD. We were getting calls from daycares, preschools, and elementary school, at least once a week. I'm glad to hear that tae kwon doe has helped your son...pondering that now myself! We briefly tried E on medication, but took him off due to side effects-might ask his doc about concerta...happy with that? Hope you are doing well and you are not alone!
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10/06/2007 2:55 PM  

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